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No Path to the Heart: The Futility of Relationships with Narcissists or Sociopaths
In a healthy, heart centered, relationship, we experience connection. The love between two people is given and received openly. There is a natural flow that exists. Of course it isn't perfect and as human beings we fall into fear, experience disconnection and we work to re-connect. These are the natural struggles of relationship, the rough patches. These struggles are not meant to be the norm.
In a relationship with a personality disordered person, we give love that is never authentically received. Our love is deflected by the ego, twisted and manipulated. The person we have shared love with is lacking a path to the heart, by which to receive it. In a loving relationship, our love would be acknowledged, accepted and returned or responded to. This is not the case when our partner is disordered. Our trial begins when we respond to our disordered partner, by giving more, giving differently and expecting less in return. We do this hoping for a better outcome.
We have now embarked on an exhausting and futile journey. Our energy will be drained; our perceptions of self and others will be challenged and distorted. Ultimately, our hearts will be broken.
Healing from Abuse: 6 Ways to Heal the Feminine Spirit after Abuse
You may have identified you have been in a relationship with a narcissist, or a sociopath or a sociopath-narcissist. You may have read and re-read the signs and symptoms. Maybe you have compared your stories with those of others who have walked the same road. Perhaps you have felt shock, anger and grief, at the realizations of who you were really with. Maybe you're wondering why. Why did I choose this person, or why did I let this person choose me? Maybe you're ready to start moving past it but find yourself reliving the past or the feelings of the past.
Do you suspect you are or have been, in a relationship with a narcissist? Have you felt like the behavior of a loved one, co-worker or close friend drains you on a regular basis or leaves you feeling like you're the crazy one? Have you felt like:
Five Tips to Shine in Your Power Now
We've all been there, right? Someone steps right over our boundaries or treats us abusively, and we're left feeling victimized and angry. Maybe we even told the person in the past what our boundary is, and still they wiped their feet on it! How dare they? How could she be so disrespectful? How could he do this to me?
The question is: How could we do this to ourselves?
Mindfulness and the Course
This is a great lesson to bring to mind if your currently practicing mindful awareness. I may not always be able to bring love to every situation. I am human, after all, and equipped with an ever alert ego, ready to pounce on all perceived attacks to my peace. (A state of being which promises to pull me out of peace every time!)
The beauty in this lesson is its' simplicity. I can easily remember to judge nothing. As judgement, good or bad, begins to form, I can dismiss and move my awareness back to just noticing.
In truth, it is in the absence of judgement that a centered space of love is found. This space waits patiently for us to return to it.
Reiki is the force within all living things. Matter is not living without the spark that is all life. Without the life force that runs through us, we're all simply meat suits. The word Reiki, translated, means; universal life force energy. It is the energy within all living things and the energy connecting all living things.
So what is Reiki healing? In a reiki healing session, the practitioner channels this energy from the surrounding environment, through themselves, and on through the client. Reiki is not a foreign energy; it is energy that is already present, focused for the intention of healing and enlightenment.
A Reiki Practitioner helps the client to awaken self healing abilities we all have, but have been conditioned, over centuries, to block or ignore.